New years resolutions.

To be honest, I think new years resolutions are crap. If you want to change something, do it right away & don't use the new year as an excuse. Mahatma Gandhi once said, "Be the change you wish to see in the world." And I agree with him.

Break-ups and self-respect

He is gone. There is nothing you can do to change it. You have to deal with it and move on. However, it's not such an easy thing to do. There is this one episode of How I Met Your Mother where Robin Scherbatsky has the same problem. She sees her ex-boyfriend on TV, and is instantly reminded of their tough break-up. She gets drunk,  calls him and leaves a voicemail saying "I'm soo gonna kill you!" And of course she regrets it the next day, but what's done is done.  Not only did she lose her self-respect by threatening her ex, but she also showed that she was not strong enough to resist the urge of calling him. I am sure she is not the only woman in history who has acted like that. 

After a break-up, why do we lose our self-control?
We have loved and we have lost. Mostly, it doesn't even matter who has ended the relationship. It hurts and makes us wonder over and over again what went wrong. Analyzing everything we have said and done won't bring them back, though. It's okay to take some time to get over the hurt, to lock ourselves up at home, wear the same old gym pants for weeks, do not shower regularly, eat junk food, listen to corny lovesongs and just cry. Moaning is absolutely okay up to a certain point, but when your life starts going down and you cannot seem to get back to your daily routine, it is time for an INTERVENTION! Maybe we have lost someone we truly loved, but we still have our self-respect and we should not lose that either. So here are some things that should prevent you from making a fool of yourself:
- whatever you do, do NOT call him, DON'T leave any voicemails, no  matter what you have to say.
- don't show up at his apartement.
- don't send him letters, e-mails, text messages, e.g.

Just try to find your peace. I know it's hard, but always keep in mind that you will be able to look into the mirror without being ashamed of yourself.
There is this great book called It's Called a Break-Up Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy written by Greg Behrendt, the author of He is Just Not That into You. It is funny and helpful at the same time, giving you the kind of support you need in those tough times.
Order here.
Good luck!

giving or receiving?

People are all after presents these days. This makes me wonder what actually makes them happier, giving or receiving? I like both, although I probably prefer giving. There is no better feeling than making someone smile. :) What do you think?

Looking forward to it.

This movie deals with the issues and insecurities people have when they realize they are growing older. It happens very often, especially in some business (e.g. the model biz oder dance buisness)...

Why is it so hard letting go?

I've got an old pair of Converse Chuck Taylor sneakers. I've worn them to almost every occasion during the last years: to concerts, when I went shopping / was hanging out, to gym class, etc. Accordingly, they also look like that, namely worn out. 

And although I have about a gazillion other pairs of shoes, I can't bring myself to throw them away. Two pairs are even new Converse shoes, but still I keep the old, ragged up pair. 

     This leads me to one question: Why do we keep holding on to something that we should have let go a long time ago? It does not only happening with shoes, clothes and other material stuff; it's the same with emotions or relationships.Maybe you've had a friend for years and you shared some good times together. But as the time passes by, you take different directions, you stop seeing each other everyday, you both meet new people and eventually grow apart. And when you finally get to catch up, you find that you have nothing in common and nothing to say to each other anymore.

     Sometimes you think you are completely over a person you once loved, but still can't bring yourself to delete their number from your phone. Maybe you secretly hide a photo of them somewhere and look at it from time to time. And even when you move on, have a new life, someone new you're in love with, one day it catches up with you again. You wait in line for a coffee to go and they're playing this song, your song, the song you two used to love. It throws you off the track, and you wonder why, because you thought you had moved on. And maybe you have. But you haven't let go.

     Maybe we just need to learn to be careful, not to let people in so easily. But then again, love and friendship is all about letting your guards down. And what would life be without love? We cannot protect ourselves from getting hurt, we can just hope that the people we put our trust in will be worth the pain.

So for now, I am keeping my old Converse shoes.

I love the moon.

I have an obsession with the moon. I don't know why, but I just love it. I think it's very fascinating and sometimes I just sit on my couch and look up at the night sky from my window. We should really appreciate those things more.

Here is a picture I took of the moon some weeks ago.

Getting ready for winter.

While J. is probably sunbathing and doing all kinds of stuff people do in summer the next couple of months (as it is summer in Australia), I am getting ready for winter in Germany. They say it is going to be one of the coldest winters in 100 years. I have done some shopping, so I will hopefully be prepared for that.

I bought some basic stuff, like gloves, hats, a woolen pullover/dress (in pastel pink! it's very big, so you can either wear it as pullover or a dress with a waist belt ), snoods (which I totally love this season) and padded shoes.

I especially love the shoes. They are in the style of Doc Martens and super comfy!

 

And as I currently love pastel colors, I bought some other stuff that I found pretty.

I have some nailpolish that goes with these colors (although I do not wear nailpoilish that often, as I like my nails the way they are).


I also like nailpolish in the classic red color, or grey and light red.


And I bought some magazines and books that I can read when it's cold outside. :)